Does what you Present align with your spoken Values?

Being human, we all fall a bit short of our true values.

If you're attempting to live mindfully or you've made introspection a part of your daily journey, you'll unearth a few more double-standards within yourself than you'd like to find.

Mindfulness

means

you're gentle with yourself

when you discover them, perhaps even laughingly making those little changes as you go along to bring you into greater alignment with what your true values are.

Busy-ness,

however, means

we often miss where double-standards

not only slip in, but often become the 'norm' without us realizing it.

Again, this is not to pass judgement, on yourself or on others,

but to get us (yes, you and me, both of us human) to make the time to step back and assess what we're actually doing. What our lives actually attest to.

A few scenarios on our 'values', just to check in...

Free will

 is absolutely a core value of mine, but... |

Scenarios:

  • "...I expect my friends to support my initiatives." Regardless of what they're dealing with, where their values lie at this time.

  • "...Of course I expect you to 'follow me back' on social media when I do." Regardless of what's relevant to them? How does it affect you, your newsfeed, your content, following everyone? 

  • "...I can often turn a 'No' into a 'Yes' to close the deal". Does this disregard their free will? How do you feel when this happens to you? A bit resentful, if it drains your time, energy, focus?

Everything we need lies within,

but... |

Scenarios:

  • "...sometimes clients don't know what they need, so they need to be told or at least guided." Do they really? Do you honour your own views or do Gurus always know what's best for you? 

  • "...my advice makes people aware of what's within." Does it really? Is that often true when the tables are turned?

  • "...sometimes people need a kick in the pants to move." Do they? Or are they simply not ready to commit? Do you truly, whole-heartedly commit to something you were forced to decide?

You

can

do life and business on your terms,

but... |

Scenarios:

  • "...everyone should at least do/have/be <_____> to succeed." If so, then do you really believe 'life and business on your own terms' is possible? 

  • "...they just need to implement my systems/frameworks to succeed." As it can't be both, then which is your true value statement?

  • "...no one can do it alone" / "...everyone needs a mentor" / "...everyone needs community first." Really assess what your true values are, as they can't be any of these and 'life and business on your own terms'.

Positivity and Authenticity are both important to me,

but... |

Scenarios:

  • "...you can't actually be positive when you're authentically dealing with pain." Are you sure? Is it possible that being authentic and positive means you acknowledge all feelings before assessing how to move forward positively out of that experience?

  • "...smiley people annoy me. Who's that chipper all the time?" Perhaps we don't know how they got to be smiley all the time. Do you have days where you're so full of gratitude that you can't help but smile? What is your truth here?

These are just a few of the values we often claim to have

that our day-to-day habits suggest are not our authentic values. It's fine if you don't believe these things - regardless of how many people expect you to - and it's okay to own your truth regardless of what others think. If you

do

truly believe these things, you know that these scenarios barely scratch the surface of our running internal double-standard conversations.

If these haunt you, even a little, I hope the following ideas help.

Possible steps forward...

Free will

 is absolutely a core value of mine, but... |

Consider:

 This actually calls for us to make peace with the boundaries of our own arenas. To find validation within, rather than in the actions and responses of others. Clarity on what you have control over.

If your own free will matters to you,

take a second to daydream. Consider scenarios that make you

defend it

and those that make you

celebrate it

. Do you take action most out of obligation (real or imagined) or free will? Now turn the tables in a few situations you've lived in the past few weeks.

In their shoes, how does that feel?

Everything we need lies within,

 but... | 

Consider:

 This invites you to assess whether or not you actually believe this is an absolute or an 'occasional' truth. If it is absolute, are external 'guides', mentors, advisors, coaches, potential triggers or must 'good advice (relevant and timely or not) always be taken'? How many times have you 'started over', because different mentors have given different advice? How much time do you devote to hearing yourself? This is a good indication of whether or not this is truly one of your core values.

Turning the tables:

if you honour that this is a core value of the person you're speaking to, how do you ensure that your conversation is inviting consideration, rather than forcing your perspective on the other person... or

'better informing' them?

You 

can

 do life and business on your terms,

 but... | 

Consider:

 If you truly believe this, do your schedule, energy, client engagement process, family engagement - everything about you - reflect that? Does your community honour your business model and preferred lifestyle? This actually affects your health, so think this one through.

Turning the tables:

Do you often tell others to live their lives, or run their businesses differently? Do you find that you have to convince others to invest in your services, or do you connect with those already seeking you?

How do you honour this value system.

Positivity and Authenticity are both important to me,

 but... | 

Scenarios:

 Consider the perspective that 'life balance' means living a static life (never changing or moving), whereas 'life harmony' means giving priority to what you choose at different times in your life - life doesn't stand still. Positive mindset refers to a predominant state of joy or appreciation, and not an eternal state of never having negative emotions. Authenticity demands that you're true to yourself in all arenas. What does that mean for you? Is "Positivity and Authenticity" a paradox or a contradiction for you?

Turning the tables:

whether you believe it or not, it's important to acknowledge that. Then, it's important to acknowledge that (if you honour free will) others may have found the paradox. It doesn't mean they're never unhappy, simply that they've found different ways to manage it. Stay true to your intuition -

you know a false smile when you see one.

Still,

smiling often is not a sign that one is not authentic.

Leave room for others to be who (and where) they are on their journey.

Live and let live.

Whatever your beliefs...

Wherever you stand, I hope to leave you with this.

If we are ever to be a truly thriving global community,

we start by looking within, at what our own truths are. It is strong, conscious individuals that make up a healthy, sustainable community - not a few fear-filled heads or 'leaders'.

What do you think?

Yours in love and light,

Crystal-Marie S

Crystal-Marie Sealy

Mom First • Author • Keynote "Authenticity for Gentle Resilience" | Authenticity. Self-acceptance. Intuition and the Feminine.

Welcome to "Conversations with Crystal-Marie", honouring your individual sovereignty. Embrace what resonates, release what doesn't.

I'm Crystal-Marie Sealy. Get to know me here. Once you're comfortable, let's see:

✓ How I can support you more deeply here.

✓ How my keynote can best serve your audience.

✓ How my book(s) support you best.

If you are open to attracting an easier lifestyle, whether based on health or values, you'll find insights around:

​✓ Authenticity for Gentle Resilience. Embracing all of who you are, without apology or resentment of those who don't get it. Compatibility and individual sovereignty are key.

✓ The Feminine. Embracing the true feminine, maiden to crone. Dispelling myths, including those around the shadow, not toxicity. Intuition is key.

In ease, ebb and flow, love, abundance, possibility.

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When It's Louder Than Usual (Women)

There's a time every month

when we as women are generally least able to focus on external things because

what's going on inside is much louder than usual.

Your mind is in a fog:

  • The lists, plans and logical frameworks that usually keep you on track are meaningless,

  • The situations you've trained yourself to ignore, somehow irritate/hurt you more than usual, 

  • Your thoughts are suddenly big-picture, philosophical and emotional.

"I Have My Period"

I really want to invite you to consider that

you're not crazy.

You're not "PMS-ing" in that how you feel is not something to apologize for (**we can all work on how we act). You simply cannot ignore yourself any longer. You're in a world that has no time for you, and frankly, you follow suit. Your period is the one time when your spirit, soul and body come together, united, to say

"we will no longer be denied (at least for the next 3 days!)"

This blog is largely about

hearing your own thoughts

and the importance of self-care. I don't know about you, but despite all of it, I have to wonder why it's taken me all of my 33 years to realize that 

it's not a good thing that this is what my body has to do to be heard.

I believe if we're paying attention to all of our needs all month,

our

entire being

wouldn't have to "line up" for this small window of time in order to be heard

and, for most of us, we wouldn't walk on eggshells for fear of breathing fire on everyone. I'm sure, we'd still be more conscious and aware at this time of month, but

it wouldn't knock us off our feet

if

emotional and spiritual self-care (love, compassion, grace, playfulness) were a part of our daily lives.

This was huge for me, and yet every time of the month since, I've been caught by surprise. It takes a while to move things from the head to the heart. Funny how, when you're studying something in earnest, God brings everything you need your way. Here's what I found.

Embracing All of You

You may not share the beliefs

or practices in the video below, and thus may not agree with the specifics of Joanne's "time of the month" package, but I'd like to invite you to create your own. What items can you make a habit of surrounding yourself with during this time?

What excites your sense of sight, smell, taste, sound and touch?

These are the things that will help you to listen to yourself.

Here's what 

Joanne Ameya Cohen

 does.

 Perhaps it will help you create your own ritual, or your own 'space' in time and energy, to honour and listen to what you (spirit, soul and body) has to say...

Again, take from this what speaks to your inner self -

the individual that is known and loved completely and unconditionally (good, bad and ugly) only between you and your maker. Really invite yourself to consciously see how your spirit, soul (mind, will, emotions) and body respond.

Where Are You in All of This?

I'd love to hear what works for you.

So far, I'm stuck on:

  • Visuals, flowers, minimalist architecture and all things in my shade of pink (see pics)

  • Scent, still seeking, but a very unique French Vanilla and baby powder

  • Taste, still seeking as well, but grapes, Raspberry Kefir and spicy Cheetos

I'm still working on the

textures for touch

and

sounds including words,

 which I'm very sensitive to regardless of time of month.

You?

Remember,

you are worth every bit of the time, energy and space

 you're willing to invest in others. If you're not filled to overflow, your giving will not be from a cheerful place of overflow, but from a place of duty which, when you begin to run low, turns to resentment.

So stay full!

Time for Dreams

I love being a girl!

I just sat in a cafe near my home, to get away from the computer for a bit, and listened to 3 women

laughing heartily

in a very animated conversation. There really was no more beautiful sound in that moment. I couldn't help but smile.

Before starting my business, I made time for introspection.

I knew where my thoughts were and why, how I would manage them, if I wanted them to change, and what my small goals were. All logical, but at least I could hear myself think.

Today, in the midst of the 'busy-ness'

of managing my own organization, I rarely have time. I've been feeling those thoughts turn into feelings, all left unresolved, as

"there's too much to deal with first"

.

If you look back at my earlier posts, you would see how much time I spend writing about

self-care, self-love, me-time

and

the role of the individual

(the whole, complete individual) in creating

a powerful community.

Whether that community is your 'inner circle', your family or the world at large, I focused a lot on the

importance of you being the true you,

getting clear on who that is, if your community is to benefit fully. Our world functions best when we all flourish, but until we learn that

"we" includes "me",

we continue to see strife in our communities. I write this because I believe it, but do I live it? Apparently, not at the depth that I'd thought I did.

Just before those three ladies brought a smile to my face, I was hit by the reality that my head had been so far down in my business (my baby, don't get me wrong) that

I'd forgotten all the other things I wanted from life.

I was struck by a very

clear image of my daughter.

It's the craziest thing. I don't have a daughter yet, but since the age of 12, I'd been dreaming of becoming a mother.

Source:

protectyourdreams.blogspot.ca/2015/02/time-for-dreams.html

Out of nowhere, that image came screaming at me -

"I'm waiting", "Make it happen", "What about me?"

Am I alone in this? I forgot my other very important and time-sensitive dreams! In taking just 1 hour out of my busy day, away from my work and home environment,

my heart finally found it's voice again.

I want to be a

wife

and

mother,

all while I have my wits about me! I miss being a

great friend, daughter/confidant, sister/best friend, grand daughter

and

cousin!

Only

I

can make time for what is important. My business is my baby, yes, but it does not need all of me. Yours doesn't either.

Can you relate to this? What dreams have you had, but long given up on? Do you even remember?

Sit with your thoughts. Focus on happy things that make you relax. Maybe take a retreat, and listen to what comes up. Why not?

Make them real for yourself:

  1. Write them down, or save Pictures of them, that keep them top-of-mind

  2. Work backwards on small steps with deadlines that you can take each day

  3. Smile and say, out loud daily, that "I'm coming to get you. In fact, you're coming to me."

Being positive doesn't mean you have to lie to yourself.

You should, in fact, be true to yourself about where you are, so where you will be very soon becomes a clearer, more rewarding, target.

What are your dreams?

They're not impossible.

I'd love to hear what some of yours are. Perhaps I can help keep you accountable in keeping them!

I hope I woke something up inside of you, today. Happy trails!

Crystal-Marie Sealy

Mom First • Author • Keynote "Authenticity for Gentle Resilience" | Authenticity. Self-acceptance. Intuition and the Feminine.

Welcome to "Conversations with Crystal-Marie", honouring your individual sovereignty. Embrace what resonates, release what doesn't.

I'm Crystal-Marie Sealy. Get to know me here. Once you're comfortable, let's see:

✓ How I can support you more deeply here.

✓ How my keynote can best serve your audience.

✓ How my book(s) support you best.

If you are open to attracting an easier lifestyle, whether based on health or values, you'll find insights around:

​✓ Authenticity for Gentle Resilience. Embracing all of who you are, without apology or resentment of those who don't get it. Compatibility and individual sovereignty are key.

✓ The Feminine. Embracing the true feminine, maiden to crone. Dispelling myths, including those around the shadow, not toxicity. Intuition is key.

In ease, ebb and flow, love, abundance, possibility.

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Season's Greetings & 2014 Review

I have heard many say, this year, that

2014 was both terrible and awesome at once.

I can truly relate. That means, however, that we've all grown in some way. You may have learned that

you're more resilient than you thought,

or that there are more efficient ways to do something or quite simply that you'll do something very differently moving forward. Whatever you learned this year, I'm sure there is a positive perspective and takeaway, if not a few. Would you be willing to share what those were?

I believe none of our experiences are for naught. They're all necessary to help others advance too.

Source:

protectyourdreams.blogspot.com/2014/12/seasons-greetings-2014-review.html

My 2014 Eureka Moments

I don't know where to begin, but I'll aim for a list of 12 lessons I've learned this year, that I hope can help you find greater efficiency, balance and joy, in all areas of your lives.

  1. If you enter every situation with Thanksgiving, you'll be surprised at how it will be turned around for good. Whether that's based on a change in perspective or a miracle, it's good.

  2. Lesson #1 above has led to a series of serendipitous moments that I could not have dreamed up myself. From people to opportunities to new mindsets, our words do manifest our experiences.

  3. In being true to myself, as I embrace the lessons above, I've also been a great source of inspiration without even realizing it! People have been moved to love and intrinsic purpose, after listening to me gush on about what I've been learning and how it's helped me.

  4. Money is a friend, not a foe. This year, my mindsets around money have changed to understand that as a friend, financial wealth empowers me to be even more generous. When I am financially healthy, it is far easier for me to help others achieve the same.

  5. My intuition is not just 'in my head', so to speak. It is a very real aspect of my being that has, to date, never (seriously) steered me wrong. I've attracted like-minded entrepreneurs, just by trusting my gut. It takes practice when you've ignored it for so long, but try it.

  6. Love is the opposite of fear. We all believe it's Courage, but courage is merely a product of Love. This year, I've learned to focus on what I'm pursuing in Love, rather than dwelling on what could go wrong as I pursue it (fear). What would it look like for you to live this way?

  7. Self-care is not selfish. Self care is the wise setting of boundaries to ensure that you remain whole as you pursue your dreams which, inevitably, will help others. We are of no use to anyone if we are burnt out or spread thin. We can't do anything well if we're doing everything.

  8. When I am taking care of myself, even when it means saying "No" from a place of love to someone or something, I have created a safe space for them, too, to do the same. No one is forced to do what they don't want to, or really can't, do.

  9. Lesson #8 also no longer comes with guilt or anxiety about letting others down or fear that something or someone might fail because I said "No". I completely understand (most days) that this "No" sets clear boundaries for me to be able to be at my best when I do say "Yes".

  10. Lessons #8 and #9 became real to me when I viewed them through the lenses of my Time, my Goals, my Space, my Perspective, my Pace of life and decision-making, my Feelings, my Preferences, my Comfort Zone and Stretch Zone*, and other aspects of life. (*Your stretch zone refers to moments where you risk stepping out of your comfort zone to try something new. You shouldn't be coerced to enter this zone; it should be your decision. The Panic Zone is that zone beyond your stretch zone. If you're in the panic zone, you're not ready. It's fine to step back.)

  11. I've always known this, but never put it into words. I make decisions from a place of conscious awareness of why I'm making those decisions. Decisions are no longer based on false time-pressure or peer-pressure or any kind. When I make conscious decisions, I know I am committed to those decisions, to seeing them to fruition.

  12. I'm now more comfortable knowing that I am not to be all things, at all times, to all people. I know that my part is important, but I am free to stay balanced, true to myself, as I do my part.

Some of you may have heard me rave about some or all of these, already, but those are my 2014 - year of Eureka Moments - lessons. I know I'm not alone though.

Willing to share yours?

Wishing you, your loved ones and everyone you encounter, love, joy, healing and prosperity in every area of life.

See you in 2015!

Best, always!

Back To Basics - Your Approval Required

On March 28th, 2014, I wrote

In Honour of Your Freedom

(parts 1 and 2)

because I'd realized that I'd gotten stuck in making sure everyone else was happy and I stopped hearing my own thoughts. There's a difference, however, between being responsible in your treatment of others and being responsible for the happiness of others.

Source:

http://protectyourdreams.blogspot.ca/2014/07/back-to-basics-your-approval-required.html

A few days ago, I posted something on Facebook (I tend to post only encouragement, so this was rare):

"

I fell for that age-old trick. No more. I will not compromise. My ability... is not an affront to you. Be where you are, I will celebrate your successes, but don't ask me to be less so you can feel validated.

"

I was having a rough day - a downward spiral in my mind of everything I've done wrong and how my mistakes may have made others' stumble.

It started with a couple disapproving looks and some less-than-subtle comments from some people who've made some wrong assumptions about my life, but of course (according to my boyfriend),

I approved their application to 'take up real estate' in my head.

I sometimes think I'm alone in this, but yesterday, so many people related so strongly to this post, that I started to realize that this is an issue many others probably face.

By the time I'd gotten home, I'd started to see how many people in my life

I've fallen into "holding myself back" for, so they can feel better.

Whether that's a strength I have that they don't share (or perhaps don't know that they

do

share), or my drive and discipline around work and quality, that they either don't care about or haven't achieved yet.

The opposite is also true.

There are things I still struggle with, that others have probably never struggled with, and they really look down their noses at me for it. Often, these are the same people I don't come down on for being 'weak' in my areas of strength.

Source:

protectyourdreams.blogspot.ca

That afternoon, I felt like I was drowning.

The burden of walking on eggshells:

holding myself back because of other people's need for validation, and beating myself up because I make mistakes that perhaps others don't and I'm afraid I've corrupted others by sharing my mistakes,

is simply too much.

Recently, however, I've been repeatedly reminded that, first, that is not my burden to carry, and that, second, it is my right to approve (or disapprove) someone's 'freedom' to speak into my life, to place their expectations on me. I don't have to let the 'needs' and expectations of those I'm close to, determine my decisions. So...I choose to approve none of the 'applications',

regardless of how bold, old, close, knowledgeable, the 'applicants' are.

It's still hard to move that knowledge from my head to my heart, but I caution those of us who spend all of our time in community and carry this burden:

This

is a big part of why we all need some time alone

to hear ourselves think!

Once you're clear on how you think, feel, see things - on what your desires and needs are - then others are just supposed to be sound-boards to test your ideas.

They're not supposed to decide for you.

I'd advise that you keep others' out of those decisions, for now.

Discipline yourself to learn to make (and trust) your own decisions.

Even if you make mistakes, you're strengthened by a renewed sense of "ownership"! You made the decision, and you're strong enough to deal with the consequences. As this 'decision' has become an 'experience', you have concrete (not 'fear-based') evidence of why you're taking the next step you're taking - whatever that may be.

Try it!

Sound counsel is very important. Community is important. Truly, no man is an island, and we are stronger in community, but that is generally true because

each individual member of the community brings who s/he inherently is, to the table.

That makes for strong community.

So, who are you?

If you're always surrounded by 'community' that's manipulating, controlling - even with 'good intentions' - it's not a community that is beneficial to you, or to the community itself.

For your sanity - and for that community you care so much about - make the time to simply

sit and 'BE'.

Share all those those inner thoughts you have never shared with anyone, release all of those emotions you never release because they're "bad/wrong", in your moments alone - out loud, if you can, or in a journal. Only then, when these things are all brought into the light, can we see clearly to make decisions. Community offers support, yes, but who are they supporting when you can't hear your own thoughts anymore?

Make the time.

Crystal-Marie Sealy

Mom First • Author • Keynote "Authenticity for Gentle Resilience" | Authenticity. Self-acceptance. Intuition and the Feminine.

Welcome to "Conversations with Crystal-Marie", honouring your individual sovereignty. Embrace what resonates, release what doesn't.

I'm Crystal-Marie Sealy. Get to know me here. Once you're comfortable, let's see:

✓ How I can support you more deeply here.

✓ How my keynote can best serve your audience.

✓ How my book(s) support you best.

If you are open to attracting an easier lifestyle, whether based on health or values, you'll find insights around:

​✓ Authenticity for Gentle Resilience. Embracing all of who you are, without apology or resentment of those who don't get it. Compatibility and individual sovereignty are key.

✓ The Feminine. Embracing the true feminine, maiden to crone. Dispelling myths, including those around the shadow, not toxicity. Intuition is key.

In ease, ebb and flow, love, abundance, possibility.

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In Honour of Your Freedom (Part 1)

(2014 March 28) Inspired by Nisha Moodley’s Fierce Fabulous Free blog post “

Lessons from a year of courage

”, I’ve only included here what complements my message, but I hope you get time to read it yourself.

You – Put “ME” On That Checklist

Put

“ME”

at the top of your checklist – enjoying “me”, grooming “me”, loving “my” appearance, exercising, eating healthily, drinking water, learning “me” – simply being “me”. Every aspect of “ME” is

critical to your success,

so you need to be consciously “ME”. It is a whole version of YOU that

can recognize and enjoy success when it comes.

YOU are important.

Boundaries – Not Walls

ME-time reveals

boundaries,

your comforts and perceived limitations. Sure “get out of your comfort zone” to explore your potential, but

‘know your comfort zone’ first.

Boundaries keep you

safe, comfortable

and

confident in your

right to be

– spirit, soul (mind, emotions) and body – while allowing you to

let the right experiences and people

in – or out.

Walls keep whatever’s inside in, and whatever’s outside out; you don’t want that.

Get to know YOU – THEN you’ll be more effective at saving the world.

Live Courageously

Courage is not the absence of fear,

but the drive to push through it. Being true to yourself about your

emotions, thoughts, underlying beliefs

that drive you, goes a long way in helping you

face and then conquer your fears.

Common fears:

Forget failure – fear of

success,

fear of

man

and fear of

emotions.

However impossible your dream,

you will never know what’s possible unless you try.

If you don’t, that will be your greatest regret at 90. Fear of man

(people’s disapproval of your ‘audacity’)

should never hold you back. Emotions – no, no – not just the ladies. This fear is even greater for men.

Emotional IQ (EQ)

is a most sought after leadership trait because when you can

manage your own emotions,

it makes you very effective at dealing with others’ emotions.

No need to run from your fears. Face them and do it anyway.

Learn the Right Lessons

Don’t learn the wrong lessons

from your experiences.

Learn the empowering lessons.

Scenario: You fall off a horse.

Lessons:

This is dangerous. I should be more careful. I should stop riding horses. So often we have an experience and we say,

"I’ll never do ‘X’ again".

Now that that wall is up, what happens when the perfect opportunity comes and “X” is what’s needed to get it?

Learn the empowering lessons and start implementing.

Have One “Thing” You Won’t Give Up

As a workaholic, I can genuinely relate to what Nisha talks about in her

6th Lesson, “It’s good to have a “thing””

.

Working all the time makes you boring

– even if work is fun. I work in social media; boring = sure death.

My one thing is Dance.

I cannot explain the things dance – its kinetics, expression, choreography – does to and for me.

What is your one thing? Why not just do it?

Acknowledge Your Broken Heart

Whether it’s

a break up,

or

the loss of a loved one,

'to thine own self be true.'

In

acknowledging every single feeling

as it comes, you're able to face it. You will heal faster than if you'd tried to bury it. That would be like

trapping a wild cat inside,

rather than letting it out and keeping an eye on it.

The claws will do far more damage inside than out.

If you're true, not letting pride or ego hold on to rage and resentment,

love truly is the outcome of healing.

KEEP DREAMING

It is so easy to lose sight of your vision,

when the horizon doesn't look anything like the image in your head.

It's easier still when you don't

make the time to dream often enough.

The human imagination is among the most powerful things anywhere.

You are your only limitation.

You will be surprised what solutions come when you rest – remove anxiety – silence your negative thoughts (the hard part) and just let options come freely.

NEVER STOP DREAMING.

PART 2 OF HONOURING YOUR FREEDOM

Before you run

to part 2

,

I want you to really

take the time (21-30 days)

to process this and work it into your schedule. Find out who you are, what you're comfortable with and what you want - what freedom means to you - then go into you with others.

Part 2 addresses the role of Community in attaining Freedom.

Crystal-Marie Sealy

Mom First • Author • Keynote "Authenticity for Gentle Resilience" | Authenticity. Self-acceptance. Intuition and the Feminine.

Welcome to "Conversations with Crystal-Marie", honouring your individual sovereignty. Embrace what resonates, release what doesn't.

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Do You Really Want It

Today!

You psych yourself up to

pursue your dreams hard today.

You get started on an

immense high.

Suddenly, thoughts of competition, workload or obstacles bring you crashing down, so you step back and say

"tomorrow".

S

ound familiar? By now you know you're not alone. It's not a cliche,

it's the truth.

Do You Really Want It

You

absolutely must ask

yourself

"Do I really want it? How will "it" affect your life, today, tomorrow? What is the permanent opportunity cost?"

Do you still want it? The answer is:

"Yes"

,

"Yes, but not right now"

or

"No"

. Not maybe.

Decide. Do you want this?

Whether you

write

it,

envision

it or

talk to yourself

about it,

make the time to decide

 if you really want it and

make the decision permanent - commit.

Want It versus Feel Like It

Once you've decided that you really want

this - business | healthy eating habits | firm body | healthy marriage | family relationship

- you're not looking back.

You want this...but you're not going to feel that wayevery day.

Nothing I've mentioned above comes without hard work, and

you've never worked as hard as you're going to work for this.

Such is the true nature of dreams.

[

Cliche:

Nothing worth anything was ever easy.]

Summary: Do You Really Want It - Here's How To Go Get It

Importance of Motivation

I'm very visual and words are important to me so, for me,

Pinterest

is a God-send, when used wisely. I have created an

Inspiration Board

,

Vision Board

 (hidden) 

and a

God Board

, that I look at whenever I start talking myself down or

procrastinating.

You have to find what works for you:

Develop a short speech you say every morning & when your resolve wanes | Listen to speeches | Take long walks | Write | Daydream about success | Run (Ha, ha. No, not 'run away' :p)

Do whatever it takes to motivate you - nothing is too weird.

[

Key: Commit a short time to doing that, then get back to the task at hand.

]

Importance of Support Systems

Support

is a funny word. Many will say the words, but many of those will keep bringing the "practical reality" your way, and it will always sound like

a list of "reasons you can't".

Run. I can't say it strongly or loudly enough.

RUN. They will keep you back.

Find people

that

you trust

,

that

believe in

what you're going for and will only provide

advice to propel you

forward. Spend most of your "people" time with them.

Find people

who've

succeeded at something crazy

or 'impossible', who are still optimistic about possibility, and have tea with them once a month.

That is reality.

Importance of Alone Time

Even if you hate being alone, you need this time to be productive. Having people around is great, but if this is your dream

you have to make time to do it.

You also have to commit to simply

making time to be with yourself;

to hear and face your own thoughts. [

Read:

Why Productive People Have Empty Schedules

. Not literally, perhaps, but good.]

Don't Look Back

None of this will "come naturally". You have to

form new habits

to commit to

alone time,

implement these

motivational changes

and develop those

support systems.

It's an uphill climb, but we've already decided that

it's worth it. Right?

[

Start today:

10 Reasons to Stop What You're Doing & Start Clearing Your Clutter

.]

More Support Online

If you'd like continuous

support for your dreams,

find more online:

Twitter

,

Pinterest

, Facebook Page

Entrepreneurs Courage

I hate the new lack of privacy on social media, but I love encouraging others, so here's to my being a little open.